Honesty...what do we think?

How come even when you are an honest person and believe honesty is the only way to be in life, being honest about love is so hard? I don't think it has to do with being scared, although as I've learned it is possible to have a fear of success without consciously knowing, so then is it possible to have a fear or really finding someone and it really being a true success or is it a fear that with all this emotion nothing will actually come out from that. A fear that you're wrong and living in some fantasy world. But how long can that go on? If it's not significant wouldn't the feeling simply pass? And yes, I do understand there is always a list factor but when it has nothing to do with lust, when you are simply content just being close sharing life stories or even just sitting in silence.